I designed a life I loved in my early 20’s. At some point, I got lazy in being deliberate and I found myself living a life I hated. I was apart from the man I loved, married to an abusive alcoholic with a gambling problem, living in a home I loved that had become a prison, with a business I was no longer passionate about and could no longer in good conscience build.
Life changes from one second to the next. Things that had worked in the past may not work in the future. Learning how to deal with the craziness of life can be the difference between praying your ship doesn’t sink and building a life raft out of the wreckage.
I have learned to let Life be the beautiful adventure it is, but it takes intentional action on a consistent basis. None of us are getting out alive, so we might as well design a life we love. We are all either getting better or getting worse, but getting better takes work.
Some people think I am lucky and I am not saying that I am not, I definitely believe in luck. But I don’t necessarily believe that luck is random. I think we can attract luck and we can repel luck. So many people are doing things that are keeping them negative, then they continue to wonder why things never go their way.
On the other hand, you have the people who seem like they can pick winning PowerBall numbers EVERY time! I can pretty much guarantee that the “lucky” person has a much brighter outlook on life than the person that can’t go a day without a catastrophe. I can also pretty much guarantee you, the “lucky” person was happy before they got lucky. The luck is a reflection of who they are.
Over the years I have been made fun of and even been yelled at for being optimistic, it still happens. One of my favorite things to say is, “I don’t know, we’ll figure it out”. For the longest time, this drove my husband nuts. Especially when it came to serious things. I would never say we couldn’t do something. In my heart I’ve always known, if we commit to having or doing something, we will figure it out.
I will never forget the first time I gave him that answer, and he turned and looked at me. Instead of getting mad, he said, “okay baby, let’s figure it out.” In that moment I knew 2 things. 1, there is always a way to get what you want IF you are committed. 2, he was my soul mate. Which leads me to….
I met my husband when I was 16 and he was 21. My parents bought the house next door, I moved in, he said hi, and by our hug the next day I was hooked. It wasn’t a fairytale, though. We have both had to overcome a lot of bad programming, personal demons, and we have both had to do a lot of growing up. We have done a lot of it together, but some of it, we had to do apart. It is not always easy and there are definitely times when I want to bury him in the desert. I know there are times he wants to drop me off a cliff. But when it comes down to it, there is no one either of us would rather make miserable. In June of 2015, our daughter, Teri Grey was born. I am excited to see what the future holds!